How To Propose Marriage: First Steps

We know that sometimes your relationships can feel like Hell. Even if you believe you found the one for you, a person that matches you like a piece of a puzzle, it can at times be hard to move on. Why does it happen? You should remember that dating is not only about happiness and entertainment. Truly, working on the improvement of the relationship is an integral part of successful marriage\living together and should never be omitted. Every case is subjective and unique; though, there are some consistent patterns in a relationship sphere. We want to tell you about certain steps from dating to marriage. Remember that these are only schematic images of what you would need to develop prosperous family! Use them wisely and add your own experience to achieve the best result.

1. An inception: building your idea of a future life. Frankly speaking, first dates do not always go according to plan. A partner rarely (almost never) meets your expectations, which usually leads to mere distress and setback. What is important right now is to discard your expectations – each and every of them! Yes, it is a good idea to create a plan and follow certain rules. However, you must never expect your woman to fit your ideas of a perfect couple from scratch. Being stuck on a precise pattern often results in a lonesomeness and a permanent disappointment. What you really need to understand is your image of a family life. In fact, you have to ask yourself – is that what I really want? After deciding what kind of relationship you are fond of, looking for a match turns out to be easy and even joyful. When you find the right girl for you, the time comes to get to know each other closely.
2. Developing stage: clarity and insights. Next few weeks after your first date is a perfect time to gradually let each other know some personal details. A deliberative approach to partner’s feelings is extremely important for this period. Do not forget that your couple must have already had some dating experience, thus, you are at this point – it was not that successful. Try being a good listener; as well, you need to find the balance between reticence and fatal frankness. It may appear that your partner does not want to know THAT much about you. Another essential moment is sharing various experiences. It is not only about talking; you need to try out how it feels like to spend time together. Some basic actions like going for groceries or buying a gift together can tell much more about a woman than plain talks. A couple should go on a longish date to see how each of you react if you become a bit tired or spend a large period together. When you marry, you spend more than a half of your time alongside her; therefore, you have to be 100% sure that she does not irritate you (love can fight almost any obstacle; however, everyday actions and common habits can turn out to be unbeatable), which leads us to the next step towards the proposal.
3. Home sweet home: your roof is her roof. The last test before offering your hand is sharing a flat\house. After learning a lot about each other, it does not sound like a serious issue. How wrong you are! A day-to-day life next to a person reveals all the horrible skeletons in the closet, and simultaneously may prove that you actually make the right choice. As well, this is a phase to meet each other’s closest friends and relatives. Having the blessing of your family and friends leads to stronger marriage satisfaction and lower chances of divorce.
4. The Decisive Moment: last preparations. We are quite sure that you know what you are doing, that you love your woman, that you are mature enough for this decision etc. However, before settling things down, you should ask yourself some basic questions. Am I ready for this? Are our goals and values compatible? Have we reached the point of mutual respect and understanding? If all answers are “yes” – go forward and propose marriage.

Finally yet importantly, do not forget about physical attraction. Sex is a constituent part of the relationship concept. The first impression of a partner’s appearance in not always adequate; give her some time. As well, she must be passionate about you.