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By: Elias J. Atienza
As a libertarian man, my dating prospects are often screwed up due to my political philosophy. For instance, on Tinder a guy might ask a lady for her number, I might ask if she believe the government should have the power to regulate commerce. Clearly, I have to work on my dating game because usually these questions end with the her blocking me for the rest of time. Then again, I don’t use Tinder so I don’t know what the hell I’m talking about.
But that is being fiscally conservative, socially awkward. It’s fine being socially awkward, just means us libertarian men who often find ourselves isolated need to up our game and not talk about the government, violations of the NAP, and why roads need to banned from existence (there’s a reason why Back to the Future is the most libertarian movie ever).
Worse yet, is the fact that there is often a stereotype of libertarians being creepy neck-beards who wear fedoras and live in their mother’s basement. I don’t wear a fedora, I’m cursed with the Filipino stereotype of not being able to grow a beard, and I don’t live in my mother’s basement because I can’t afford such luxuries (damn you housing supply!).But there is a creepertarian problem in the liberty movement (not that I am one).
Creepertarians aren’t just socially awkward, they’re straight up uncomfortable. As in, let me send you an unsolicited dick pic creepy. Or, I think you’re cute, let me just tell you I’m horny over a private message creepy. Like I said, just a straight up make you uncomfortable kinda creepy.
I got to witness this first hand at the Young Americans for Liberty Los Angeles Summit last weekend. Julie Borowski, one of our own writers and a political commentator, was taking questions when some dude asked if she was single. Now, you might not think this a big deal. After all, it is reasonable to ask people if they are single if you find them attractive, but there’s a huge difference between a private conversation between two individuals and asking a political commentator if she is single during a public forum. You might think it is political correctness which guides me on this and you’re absolutely right. A speaker during a public forum expects a certain amount of respect and asking someone’s martial status as opposed to engaging in the topic is not respect in my eyes. You might see it differently, but when I go to see a political commentator or someone prominent speak, I like to ask them questions on their positions and strategies on how to spread their message.
This is not an isolated incident either, we see it time and time again. Libertarian women are often chased around in libertarian gatherings and events. As Avens O’Brien wrote just two years ago:
“Awkward suitors who don’t observe personal space boundaries, or personal hygiene regiments – please back up and spray yourself with Lysol. I’ve been in a group of people talking about a liberty cause only to notice (and become tremendously self-conscious because) one of the guys has begun staring at me with laser-focused intensity and licking his lips. What the hell is that?
Later, they try to snap a selfie with me, as if I meant to be standing next to them. Then they ask for my number so they can text me the picture. Don’t be that guy.”
And I’ve talked to several libertarian women over the past week in order to get a broader understanding. After all, I am a guy and women offer a different perspective than mine.
I’ve heard stories about women who join LP Facebook groups and get unsolicited dick pics. An occurrence which never happened before joining a libertarian group. Worse yet, when the creeps get called out on it, they often attack with buzzwords, such as snowflake and accusing others of being politically correct. Another friend of mine has gotten a lot of messages from a lot of old libertarian guys who apparently don’t understand that young women might not be into them.
Julie Borowski talked about getting weird messages from guys all the times in her inbox during her speech at the YAL Summit, which is why she refused to answer that guy’s question on her dating status. It’s something of an epidemic in libertarian circles, creepy libertarian men just being creepy towards libertarian women. It has to stop.
You aren’t entitled to a woman’s affection nor their attention. Sometimes women are attracted to you and sometimes they are not. It’s not their fault you happen to be a libertarian guy with no social awareness, nor any sense of personal space despite claiming to understand what personal property is.
Does this also apply to women? Yeah. But the biggest problem in libertarian circles is not women, it’s men when it comes to this.
Being a creep is not justified whatsoever and you need to get your brain checked out if you think it is. We’ve got a problem and we got to ask ourselves; what stereotypes hurt libertarians the most? It is often not our ideas, but the personalities of the people giving out these ideas. Creepertarians are just one of many problems, but it is magnified because women are the minority in our movement.